Saturday, October 27, 2012

Teacher fired over porn says she lost herself

Teacher fired over porn says she lost herself

This is an outrage to me and should be to everyone. Here is a woman that has a past like all of us. She's made decisions that were right for her at the time like we all have. Is being in the porn industry a job that should preclude you from teaching junior high or any age of children? If the truth were told the porn industry alone is responsible for putting lots of people, especially women through not one or two years of college but four or more for what they can make in a summer.

Our societal mindset that makes us judge these people comes from our Judeo-Christian values. Why do we feel the need to judge? Christ judged no one. Why do the self professed followers of Christ judge in a manner not unlike the assassins of Christ.

The important questions for the school administrator and anyone to be asking is " how is she as a science teacher?" "Does she interact with her students appropriately?" There are teachers that have torrid sex lives, make videos and have pictures everywhere on the Internet. So what? How are they at their job? If we hold everyone accountable for their past decisions that society doesn't agree with then everyone would be out of a job. That would be everyone, government and private sector.

The article says she thinks she deserves a second chance. I don't see where she ever received a first chance. If you're reading this, I know you've been judged and probably have judged others. Ask yourself how it made you feel to be judged and then ask why do you want to do that to others.

We're all imperfect. Why do we have this overwhelming need to judge others ? Why mess with their livelihood? How would you like losing you job because of some prior employment. At least this woman had a job.

Thursday, October 11, 2012

True Colors.....

Isn't it funny. I'm sure you all know the topic I'm about to write about. I would like to preface this article with the following information. 1) this is not about anyone I'm involved with. 2) this is also not about anyone I consider a friend 3) just because a persons is in your "friends list" on social media doesn't mean they're your friend.

People all have a time when they show their "true" colors. Now true colors can be so very positive but more often than not its negative. Which is what I want to discuss. Why do so many people need to be fake? Is it that they don't like themselves enough to be real? Is it that they have to manipulate and lie to have people like them. I personally don't care about the why. I give everyone a clean slate when I meet them. It's up to them to keep it clean after that. I also let everyone have mistakes within reason because none of us are perfect.

Having said that, when a woman acquaintance comes to me and accuses me of something that's not true. Then later goes further with an email that's not true about others just to make herself look good and manipulate me into liking her, is too big of a mistake for me to let go unnoticed. This would be her "true" color. Now the funny part is that in about 3 interactions at social events she nuked herself from any area of trust. Oh yes I almost forgot, it's always someone else's fault. Lol



Tuesday, October 9, 2012

Why don't people grow up?

I'm sure we've all heard someone say I don't want to grow up. I don't want to either. Lol. For the most part anyway. I think that statement relates to keeping your inner child to remind you to have fun and enjoy life as you go through it. To not forget to smell the roses, etc.

Unfortunately, I see a lot of people, men and women that have really not grown up. They still have the same social behaviors that they had in Junior High School. They talk about enemies and he said she said. Or Susie said you called me names, etc. we all know someone like that. Probably several people like that. I know it's a conscious choice for each of us to not do those things when we realize they are going on for us.

How come so many seem to be stuck there. Was it the best years of their life? Did they feel in control? Did others look up to them then with that behavior? I don't know. I just feel the need to write about it because I think it's such a problem today.

What can we do about it? Really all we can do is check ourselves to make sure we are making mature decisions when interacting with others. We can't change others by verbally critiquing them. Only by example can we teach others and inspire them to change. So I wish for each of you to have the self guidance and self control to recognize those behaviors in yourself when present, change it for you and move on. I only feel it needs to change because people without those behaviors seem to be much happier with themselves than those that have them. Thanks and good luck.