Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Nice Guy Quest Part 2

So a guy rarely recovers from the friend zone. Women tend to keep them there as a safety guy to spend companionship time with them when they are in between jerks. I am sure any woman reading this can understand what that is like when they have been there. When some guy had them in the friend zone. So what is the answer ladies? Nice guys are motivated by your smiles, your appreciation and your affections and kind words. Not sex, while sex is a wonderful exchange between two responsible adults, it is not the drive for a nice guy to be with a woman and continue to be nice. I will say that the nice guy pool has been muddied with guys that are nice temporarily for that one thing called sex. A true nice guy will never push sex because he wants you to know he respects you and cares for you on a deeper level. He probably also has some deep conversations with you about anything. Just some thoughts for today. I hope the ladies have some feedback.....be safe.
Michael McConnell

Nice Guy Quest Part 1

So I am so curious at this point in my life about the quest for nice guys made by seemingly normal women. I have often heard a woman state that all she wants is a nice guy. You check out the dating sites and 8 out of 10 female profiles have words to the affect, that they want to find a nice guy. Then when they do, there are several outcomes besides keeping him. He is too nice, he can't be real, I can have him anytime, I'm still in love with my last jerk.....it's all BS. I believe they never wanted a nice guy. That it is just their story and they needed something to say. I don't believe that women in general truly believe a nice guy can take care of them on a protection level. Nice guys are nice because they choose to be. They have grown to a place of inner peace and happiness. They want to share that with the lady that touches their heart. Usually they go unseen, or they are pushed away or worse yet placed in the "friend zone".
Michael McConnell